The Soap Shrink Interviews Ilene Kirsten On Her Insightful Creations — Ryan’s Hope’s Delia and One Life to Live’s Roxy

Ilene Kristen

By Damon L. Jacobs

Ilene Kristen is an actress famed for a having both enormous acting talent and an idiosyncratic sense of humor which helps her to steal every scene she’s in. But behind the wisecracks is a wise soul with unique understanding of human psychology. She’s used that understanding to create two iconic daytime characters: Delia on Ryan’s Hope and Roxy on One Life to Live. When we spoke at length recently, she described how she reached inside herself to create both Delia and Roxy.

Here Ilene talks about how she made Delia so startlingly real over her many years on Ryan’s Hope, during the show’s 1975-1989 run.  In Part 2 tomorrow, she’ll talk about how she made OLTL’s Roxy so entertaining and compassionate.

Part 1:  Ryan’s Hope‘s Delia 

D: So let’s begin talking about Delia on Ryan’s Hope.  The fans who read “Soap Shrink” regularly know the subject of Borderline Personality Disorder comes up frequently.  It is a personality disorder, typified by someone who makes frantic efforts to avoid abandonment.Delia Afternoon TV

I:  That’s Delia in a nutshell.

D: The only thing is BPD didn’t start getting listed as diagnosis until 1980, well after your first run as Delia from 1975-1978.  How did you know so much about Delia and these symptoms?

I:  Well, second to being an actress I would have been a therapist.  I wanted her to be real, so I observed those who were very needy. (RH‘s co-creator, co-headwriter) Claire Labine also wrote a great character description about her mother selling subway tokens, her father being a drunk, only getting love from her brother.  You then see how that manifests in the decisions she would make.  She had no occupation, she just lived in the shadow of the Ryans.  So she was completely dependent, first on her brother, then to her two Ryan husbands. (Delia was married to both brothers, Frank and Patrick Ryan).

D: How were you able to find the essence of Delia?

I:  I am very in touch with my emotions, and with other people’s emotions.  I can get any piece of information out of anyone in this room in ten minutes.  People spill their guts to me all the time, that helps.  I really observe, I’m a peeping tom in a way.  I studied acting, but I also studied people on the bus. 

D: She would often use her body to get what she wanted from the Ryan men.old Ilene

I:  That part I understand.  Women do that sometimes … it’s sad to say but true.  Delia did it to manipulate.  But she did love deeply. 

D: What was it like for you to play that?

I:  Tough.  I thought I was a comedian.  I got to put in a lot of humor in it eventually, but those first few years it was hard.  She had this weird Deliaspeak.  She was a child woman.

D: Did that remind you of anyone you knew?

I:  It reminded me a lot of a woman named Cynthia.  I didn’t know her that well, but I knew her husband.  She was a little desperate.

D: What happened to Cynthia?

I:  She eventually overdosed.

D: Were there aspects of Delia in you?

I:  I would not consider behaving like that.  As a kid I was riddled with perfection issues.  My competition was going on within me. 

D: Was your family more like the supportive Ryans or the absent Reids?

Ryan's Hope cast

I:  Like the Ryans.  I came up in a middle class family.  My father owned a beauty parlor.  They were great, I didn’t have to do anything to get attention.

D: You seemed to have such empathy for Delia.Ryan's Hope logo 1

I:  I had feelings of guilt that I grew up with such a wealth of parental love.  That’s why I went to work at a homeless shelter and helped kids. 

D: Much of that understanding had to do with your understanding.  I don’t think we saw that level of understanding with other actresses in that role.

I:  No, that character never worked with someone else playing her.  I gave her a real quality.  Except in the first week we were on.  The director kept yelling, “Do it bigger!”  After two weeks I went to the creative consultant and told him I’m just doing this my own way.Ryan's Hope logo 2

D: Did you ever get a script you just hated?

I:  One time a scene was written for Delia in her bedroom on her heart-shaped bed.  It was written that she would have a doll, and then she would start ripping the doll’s head off. I complained, I said, “Is (writer) Mary Munisteri’s psychiatrist out of town?”  Even for Delia it was ugly. So they eventually changed it for me.Ryan's hope logo 3

D: But Delia wasn’t cruel or malicious.

I:  No.  But she could do things that were counterproductive.  She could go to any extreme to get what she wanted. 

D: You seemed so real in that role.  Did anyone ever confuse you with the character?

I:  Oh yes.  I was volunteering at the VA hospital at the time, in the mental ward.  I had to get out of that job because they were too confused.Ryan's Hope logo 4

D: When SoapNet began rerunning Ryan’s Hope in 2000, what was the response?

I:  Fantastic.  A good friend saw that and said, “You have to be on TV again soon.  Good work like that has to be rewarded.”

Tuesday:  One Life to Live‘s Roxy 


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  1. Jonathan Reiner says:

    Damon (and Ilene) — Thanks for the great read. Comprehensive, academic and a lot of fun. Did you ever see the RH special we did for SoapNet in 2002? We interviewed Claire and Paul at Claire’s house, and it was Nancy’s last interview; reading your talk with Ilene brought back memories of that time.


  2. What a treat! Ilene Kristen is one smart, sensitive person. Thanks for sharing this, Damon!

    Damon says: Thank you, Norn, for such a fabulous illustration of Roxy.

  3. Really enjoyed this interview, but I have some comments on Delia and early stories for the character.

    From what I understand, inferring relationships via flashbacks on the show, Delia and Pat were involved in high school and then he dumped her due to going to college/medical school. This left Delia alone and vulnerable. Frank seeing this tried to help her get over what happened with Pat partly because of his brother and also because of his best friend Bob. Frank seemingly didn’t love Delia at all and was just settling when he chose to marry her. They would have broken up much earlier if it wasn’t for Delia becoming pregnant with Little John as Frank fell in love with Jill.

    Were those actions by Pat and Frank part of the reason why Delia was messed up emotionally along with what went on in her own family with Bob taking the role as male figure making up for their awful father? At least for the years I’ve seen RH on SoapNet, Delia just wanted to be loved. She felt she needed the Ryan family so she did whatever she could to stay within their group. With them she felt safe, comfortable and protected. When that was threatened, by Roger or anyone, she would choose the Ryans like when she used Roger to get Pat to rescue her from that cruise.

    Damon says: Interesting question, BL. In my opinion, it’s not just that Delia wanted to be loved, it’s that she was DESPERATE to be loved by a Ryan, any Ryan would do. And the frantic efforts she made to avoid abandonment by Frank or Pat (blackmail, faking blindness, suicide threats…) were symptoms of a much deeper pathology. Now, were the Ryan brothers totally innocent bystanders in all this? Heck no! They played off her needs, and both thrived off the attention she paid them. But Delia’s actions were consistent with a disorder that had not been officially diagnosed in the 1970s. Eventually, she learned to accept love from Roger, and that seemed to support her emotional growth (for awhile anyway!).

  4. I always thought Delia spiraled into madness because everyone around her kept getting new faces every year.

    I’m sure living with Delia would have been maddening, but she was fascinating to watch. In many ways she was easier to root for than the supposedly heroic people around her, especially the loathsome Frank. The Ryan family needed Delia just as much as she needed them. They had to have someone they felt superior to. Later on, when Roger transitioned from heel to hero, he also began using Delia for the same purpose.

    I had a great deal of respect and admiration for Randall Edwards’ work as Delia (and she played Delia during some patches of truly awful writing), but llene was the originator and one of a kind. The best storylines for Delia were when she was playing the stock market. I just loved seeing Delia go around in her fur coat, getting all kinds of moneymaking tips from Maeve without Maeve knowing it,

    Damon says: LOL, Steve! Yes, it can be confusing when your family and friends get new faces every year, as was frequently the case on Ryan’s Hope. You also make astute observations about the Ryan’s family role in Delia’s behavior. They needed her to unconsciously scapegoat their tensions and sense of righteousness. Delia was an easy target in this way.

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